Good Evening Guys! How is everyone doing today? Today is a Thursday here in Toronto and it is also actually my sister’s 30th birthday woahoo! Later on this evening we have a little something, something planned for her but over the weekend we have bigger plans to celebrate. What are you guys up to today? So prior to any festivities, I wanted to get a post-up and decided that today I would do more of a chit chatty, my thoughts kinda post so with that said, I hope you guys are in need of some reading hehe =) Let’s get into it!
Which statement crosses your mind most times…?
- Wow! She is so beautiful, she has such nice _____ & _____& amazing ____, I wish I had her _____.
- Wow! I am really beautiful, I have so many great features such as _____ & _____ & _____
Let’s think about it for a while… And guys, I am only using “she” as I come across tons of pretty girls daily on Instagram but it can be used with either she/he* Same concept.
Okie guys! What is your answer? Do you use statement number 1 more so than you use statement number 2 or the other way around? Or perhaps you have a good balance and do both equally! Honestly speaking, I find myself using statement number 1 way more than statement number 2 and for some reason I do not feel like I am the only one!
I have recently signed up for Instagram as many of you may know since I did post about it and as I have been using it more and more each day I noticed more and more each day. First thing I noticed were the common trends online which I mentioned in my last post regarding the smoothie bowl. I tend to stumble across so many photos of delicious food, eye appealing healthy foods, a good bit of workout photography, tons of fashion and beauty, travel, and lastly…extremely beautiful girls. After seeing pages and pages of this stuff I thought Wow! Instagram is filled with great high resolution photography; these photos are perfect down to the lighting, background, and content. When I first started using it and even now I feel the need to have perfect pictures but I knew I would not come close to the types of photos already published on Instagram or in comparison to photos published by individuals with quite a high following. I would probably get some decent photos but not perfect photos as we see circulating on there as I just do not have a high quality camera (I have my iphone), I do not have specific lighting features (just my flash, sunlight when available and regular room light) and I definitely do not have an Instagram bedroom setup (I have your typical bedroom with laundry, a bed with mismatched linens and a bunch of other necessary mess that isn’t appealing). A lot of these things make me feel very conscious when I take photos, like I would love! To take more photos of my outfits and all to share with you guys but then I think…”Oh well the background looks stupid or the lighting is not good or it just won’t look spotless” Anywho I think you guys get the point! Instagram can really showcase perfection and I feel that although it’s super nice to look at…super nice things it can also make you think a little funny! So, yep I did drift a little off my original topic but I promise I am getting back on track in 3…2…1!
So, as I was saying much earlier! I tend to use statement number 1 much more in my day to day living especially now that I see all of these gorgeous girls! They are all just so super stunning like my face is always in shock with how pretty and perfect they are. Many times I catch myself scrolling along and thinking gosh I wish I had that, or I wish I could look like that in a dress or you know, all the “I wish” kinda sayings out there basically. But then I thought hmm… I wonder if these girls do the same thing when they see other girls, is it possible that they could possibly think of wishing to have something I have? Thinking like that feels a bit odd because here I am all the time thinking I wish I had this and that and they are so, so pretty but they could just as well be in the same boat as I am using the same “I wish”.
We never really think of things that way and most times fail to realize the outstanding features we possess but really thinking of it, I am sure there are tons of people that see us and say the exact same things we say about those Instagram girls but why can we not see it for ourselves? Personally, I find myself wanting a lot of things that others have and I guess that is exactly it…I “want” it but I don’t need it because I already have one of my own, it’s like me going out there shopping for something I already have enough of. Sometimes it is just a waste of time and speaking for myself I know when I really get into this whole “I wish, I wish, I wish”, most times I just end up feeling bad about what I do have because it isn’t like what I seen and that is just not good for anyone. By no means am I saying not to admire and think other girls are beautiful because come on! Who would I be kidding, there are beautiful girls left, right and centre but we should not let that lower our self-esteem and make us think any less of ourselves. We are always super quick to point out our flaws and if you asked me right now to name 5 things I disliked about myself and 5 things I liked, I could probably name 10 things I disliked and struggle to think of 5 things I liked which is CRAZY! So I think just for saying that, I am going to put myself to that challenge, I am so tired of wishing to be something else when all I will ever be is what I am which I can either moan and groan about it or I can work towards being a better me but embrace who I am while doing so! I am going to put myself on the hot seat for a little and name 5 things I like about myself and 2 things I want to improve because I think it’s time to like more than like equally as much as we dislike about ourselves. *Note, yep guys for this post I am talking strictly physical appearance, liking who you are personality wise and spiritually is good as well but I feel that liking our outside us can be one of the toughest things*
5 Things I like
- I like my smile! – It is bright and big, I feel that it is very outstanding and kind of a signature of mine
- I like my hair! – I have always liked my hair very much; it has been long for most of my life.
- I like my feet! – Weird I know, usually no one likes their feet but I like mine especially when they are freshly done =)
- I like my back! – I can say I admire the arch in my back, makes me feel very feminine
- I like my skin tone! – This one is a bit tricky but more times than less I find myself appreciating my skin tone. I do have a deeper complexion but I feel it suits who I am; it is a golden bronzy tone, at least in my eyes!
2 Things I want to work on
- Work towards a flatter mid-section – I have mentioned in posts before that I have gained some weight that I am trying to lose. Thankfully I am working towards losing it and hopefully it works out as I plan but I can comfortably say that I don’t hate my mid-section.
- Tone up my Legs – Hmm… Well I guess that touches with my above explanation, I can say I do feel a bit more insecure about my legs as that is where I have gained the bulk of my weight but! It is a work in progress and I appreciate my efforts
Wowie! That was a bit tough, by my third thing to say I liked I was kinda scrambling but I got it done! Dig deep guys, there is tons to like about yourself and think of this! The things you dislike about yourself can very well be seen by someone else that is just wishing and hoping they had that so! Try your best to appreciate it although it may not be your favorite, it is yours and you can work towards improving but try not to hate it. I’d like to challenge you guys to try doing this little exercise and if comfortable please share it with me! I would love to hear your answers and of course if you have any thoughts on this topic please do share =) I hope you guys enjoyed this little read, I know getting to the point of saying you adore every bit of yourself is hard and I am not saying I will ever come to that point but all I am saying is try to be kinder to yourself and stop wishing for things someone else has when you have exactly what you need!
Now I am off to buy a birthday cake! So talk to you guys later?
Take care! Until the next Lifestyleforyoureyes Post